LOVE MORE
THE RELATIONSHIP SERIES
WORKSHOP 1: The Perception
WORKSHOP 1 — HOMEWORK
MAKING THE LIST
—Ask yourself: what do I want to have a bigger experience of in my relationship?
Write in the present tense and without using negatives.
Ex “I want to find a partner who is not negligent of my feelings” > “My partner is emotionally intelligent”
It doesn’t matter if you are in an existing relationship, or you are looking to find a partner, write “my partner is…” or “my relationship is…” in present tense.
No need to overdo it, write 3-5 things (or whatever you feel like)
REVERSING THE LIST
—Now look at your list and reflect on who your ideal partner would be with, or what kind of person you would have to become to be in your ideal relationship (maybe you’re already that? Then write a tribute to all your good qualities).
Write in the same way: “I am…” or “I am doing/being” etc. if there are actions you identify that you will have to take to become that person.
Ex. If you wrote “my partner is highly successful and makes xxx of money” in your original list, think about yourself as being excellent at receiving, or perhaps you have to take an aligned action to meet someone like that? Your own list could then include: “I am invited and recognized, and I meet the right people”.
WORKSHOP 1 — SUGGESTED PRACTICES
To let go of a past memory practice Cross Hearted Kirtan kriya
To let go of a subconscious pattern practice 9 minute meditation to Conquering ones imagined disabilities
A suggested meditation to do after ending a relationship Clearing the Arcline
—For all genders, but especially for women as the imprint of the other person otherwise lingers for 7 years in the Arcline.
WORKSHOP 2: The Tools
WORKSHOP 2 — HOMEWORK
MAKING YOUR “ACTION PLAN”
Identify your relational patterns, and make an action plan for what you are going to do next time you meet the challenges.
Ex 1: I get upset every time my partner leaves to go spend time with one of his friends. In my conscious mind I know that it is okay and alright, but it leaves me feeling insecure and moody. I pick a fight and ruin both his and my night instead.
New strategy: I know that it triggers my issues of insecurity when my partner goes out. I calmly express this to them, and tell them that it is not their fault but simply a pattern that I am working through. I ask them to try and inform me in advance when they go out, so that I can plan to visit a friend or a family member. If I am unable to spend time with anyone, I make a plan to watch my favorite movie, or to do a yoga class, or go to my favorite “emergency kit“ pranayam practice.
Ex 2: I notice how I always start an argument with my partner whenever we talk about money, or have to pay bills.
New strategy: I pay attention to my breath, so that I can catch the pause before the argument start, and I do daily panj grani kriya (see below or google) to build my nervous system and breath capacity. I track expenses and keep an eye on my finances daily to build trust and security around money within myself first.
Pick a daily practice from the suggestions below (and from the previous workshop notes) and stick to it for 40 days. Let the practice carry you through and help you set new patterns for yourself and your relationship
WORKSHOP 2 — RESOURCES
Harmonious Communication by Yogi Bhajan (PDF)
WORKSHOP 2 — SUGGESTED PRACTICES
The “Emergency kit”
—Meditation to heal, console and wash away all negativity
—Left nostril breath
—Meditation for when you don’t know what to do
To work on your communicative skills ’Self Assessment’ hypnosis meditation
To balance sexual issues including lack of libido and heal sexual traumas Sat Kriya and Frog squat
If the relationship broke because of betrayal and you are feeling rejected
Meditation to brighten your radiance
General practices for when the relationship is struggling
Grace of God Meditation (for women)
Sodarshan Chakra kriya for deep processing
Panj Grani kriya for strengthening the nervous system and move into a better place
Bowing Jaap sahib for strength and victory
If your partner is going through a hard time
So Purkh (as a woman chanting for a man)
A man could chant Eka Mai or Adi Shakti for his partner
Relationship mantra
Bhand jameeai to balance the male and female polarities
WORKSHOP 3: The Experience
WORKSHOP 3 — HOMEWORK
PRACTICE GOING ALL IN
Try your best—for just one day at least—to embrace life 100%. Go all in on whatever it is that you are doing but especially in your relationship.
—Can you be 100% present when your partner speaks? Can you listen, and not prepare your answer in your own head while they are talking?
—Can you show enthusiasm for the person that you are with? Can you focus on their strengths and not their weaknesses?
This is one way on which you can have a bigger experience of life and of love. It is largely a choice. Begin with that choice today, and set a new habit of loving 100% in your relationship—and in life in general. It is that simple (though not always easy, which is why you have the other tools).
Your negative habits were formed by you confirming them. Now set this new habit of being 100%.
WORKSHOP 3 — SUGGESTED PRACTICES
Venus Kriyas
Make it a habit to practice Venus kriyas with your partner (even if they are not into kundalini yoga, these practices usually feels quite okay for someone. If your partner doesn’t feel like doing it though, no worries. Follow the instructions in the video and practice by yourself, or with a friend)
Try these Venus Kriyas