WHY MY LIFE IS ONE LONG THERAPY SESSION

My biggest interest has always been, well, myself.

I am deeply interested in how I work, how I function, and what my relationship to the world is. Because within me (and in you) is the whole universe. I don’t even mean it in a cosmic “you are a star seed” metaphorical way (but sure, that too…) but literally, how we perceive the world is determined by our internal landscape, our beliefs about the world and the way we sense the world is through our own nervous system, and the codings of our neurology. The world is not outside of you, it is inside.

We don’t see things or experience things in the same way. For someone who grew up in a country (Denmark) that is socialist, and has a strong policy of equality, I had to first discover, that we are in fact not all the same.

Actually we are completely individual. We are all worthy—so if that is what you mean by equal then yes, I never question that—but we are not the same, and we don’t perceive things the same way or feel things the same way. Someone can go through a tragic event and come out on the other side with very few scratches, and others can go through a similar event and feel completely crushed. And what makes these differences, and understanding how my own self operates (physically, psychically and spiritually), is something that I am very very interested in. 

I don’t mean to neglect the power of talk therapy with my analogy of “my life being one long therapy session” though—I know many people who have greatly benefitted from going to therapy. But we can adopt a way of looking at the world, and ask ourselves questions about it and how we perceive things, what do we feel and how we organize what we are sensing, so that we are constantly putting ourselves through similar processes as when seeing a therapist. This is a yogic teaching btw: that you are your own best therapist.

So every single moment of everyday, is my opportunity to learn something about myself. Every day is a day where I can work things out, go deeper into the study of Self, and through that, the study of infinity, as we are all part of that. I throughly believe in the one creator, and that EVERYTHING is part of creation and is sacred, always remembering, If you can’t see God in all, you can’t see God at all.”

The other day at the beach with David Ra I had another incredible lesson from life: we were building a sand castle, and I was focusing on building it high. Then David started smashing it from the top. My first instinct was “oh no”, and to tell him “see how we are trying to build it as high as we can?” And then I realized, he had smashed it down to build a bigger foundation. My small, yet high tower, wasn’t going to be very stable or very impressive, and would lack foundation for truly making a big sand castle. I was moving up too fast, not paying enough attention to creating a big enough foundation, for a tower that could truly stand. Instead David had knocked it down, and in doing so, he had created a bigger foundation from which we could then build. Quickly we built from that foundation a tower, that was far higher than the one I had attempted to make, and with a much more stable foundation. 

You’ve already caught on the the metaphor here I’m sure, but let me just share what this experience gave me: sometimes we are so focused on going places fast, and we keep building and building in an attempt to reach higher and higher. But if the foundation isn’t solid, and if we aren’t building a big enough foundation, we can’t truly reach those high levels. It’s impossible to build a high tower without a strong foundation first, and just in the same way it is impossible for us in life to reach the stars without setting a solid foundation first. Our inner universe has to change first in order for the outside manifestations to come through, as above so below. And the bigger and more stable your foundation is, the easier it is to reach for those big experiences, and feel stable in your success when you reach it.

Ah, I love moments like this, and this is what I mean when I say that every single moment can be a therapy session. If you look at the world through the glasses of being a constant observer, ready to learn, ready to study, then even a trip to the beach can be a break through moment…