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THE BIRTH OF SOMETHING NEW
A lot of change is happening right now. On the astrological scene we are facing a paradigm shift when Pluto moves into Aquarius tomorrow. We are also only just transitioning out of the Spring Equinox and yesterday was the astrological New Year, with the New Moon in Aries. This could be an exciting time, but if you feel a sense of resistance, know that this is very valid and normal too. …
A lot of change is happening right now.
On the astrological scene we are facing a paradigm shift when Pluto moves into Aquarius tomorrow. We are also only just transitioning out of the Spring Equinox and yesterday was the astrological New Year, with the New Moon in Aries.
This could be an exciting time, but if you feel a sense of resistance, know that this is very valid and normal too.
Right now is a good moment to learn more about how we react to change. Are we embracing? Or we avoiding? Are we hesitant, even fearful of what’s to come? Or might this give us a sense of hope for our personal and collective future?
Change is the only constant of the universe. We change constantly (on a vibrational, atomic and cellular level, and then moving up from there), and the world around is too. Some people do very well with change while others can feel it as a deep fear of the unknown. This is largely determined by how safe we felt in child- and infant-hood (and which is why this is the main priority for the yogi mammas).
Change means building the new, and it means tearing down the old. A fall and a rise.
I am called to draw parallels to birth here. This time right now feels like a transition, and it is this transition phase during birth when a woman often wants to “quit”, turn around and leave, searching for the exit door. Oftentimes this transition is met with the realization “I really am doing it”, and also the deep realization that “everything is going to change now”.
I believe we will be moving through transition very soon as a collective. The changes are coming, and they will stir up uncomfortable emotions as Pluto always does, eventually and essentially rooting out what is no longer true.
On a more personal or micro cosmic scale, the transition phase is something many are familiar with (even if you have not given birth). as the moment before something big happens—before a breakthroughs happens, or when setting up a project or business. This is the moment when many want to quit—just like women in birth often search for a way out during transition. And it is also the moment when we overcome the fear of the change.
The transition moment is the pivotal time when many actually do quit. We had an idea, we nurtured it, grew it, and now we are in the process just before we can really start to harvest the rewards of our efforts. And for some of us (I totally acknowledge that this process is not as pronounced for everyone—but I believe the reader can still relate to it, whether this is about overcoming in a small or major scale) this is the moment when our fear of success and of the change coming with that success takes over. We start to look at the whole machinery, and we decide that perhaps it’s better to avoid it. Oftentimes this happens in the subconscious mind—our conscious mind can be totally oblivious. We might tell ourselves that this isn’t actually our right place, and that we should lay low, drop the thing or convince us that there’s something better for us to do instead. These are some of the defense mechanism that we use to avoid change. Even though they might themselves mask as change (changing direction, changing course etc.) they are actually what we use to avoid the real change, the energetic core change that will cause the actual shifts in our life.
I am talking about this because in order to become more successful (happy, aligned with our purpose, living in our highest potential) we need to recognize what many of us are doing to ourselves, right before the moment a big breakthroughs happens. Just like a woman in transition will have to go to a very new and very deep place within before going to the next phase (yes there’s a phase after transition, this is only the stage before the real delivery process “the push” happens), we also, whenever we birth any kind of project, will have to recognize and get comfortable with this moment before the big push where our primal fear of change will set in. If we know what to expect, we know how to continue. Because unlike in birth where there isn’t another way out and the birth is inevitable, when we are birthing projects we have a chance to leave it all behind. Recognizing the human behavior and drawing the parallels to a primal act like birth might just give you an idea of what you are going to face whenever “birthing” something new.
With this information at hand, how will you react the next time you are faced with “transition”? Are you ready to go through your fears and on to the other side? Will you be able to recognize the transition, and decode your emotional and mental reactions? Many people live whole lives always fleeing during the moment of transition. This will ensure that there is no growth. If we can learn instead to recognize the behavior, then we can help ourselves through instead, and reap the rewards of our efforts: the big energetic upgrade that is a soul satisfying experience, and which is our birth right. You didn’t come here to just stay safe, you came here because this planet is the greatest opportunity your soul can have to experience and learn about change, the biggest moments being the coming and going, but in between we have many opportunities to be reborn and die too.
So the next time that you are faced with transitions in life, know that this is the moment you have been waiting for. It is normal to want to run away, look away, change direction into something more safe. But if you can stay alert, and consciously make it through this moment (and you might even have to get to a place of vocal and loud discomfort) you will get to the real juice of life, and that’s what makes life so worth living.
MY QUICK GUIDE FOR HOW TO FIND YOUR MISSION
Spring is here, and with it comes the Spring Equinox… The Spring Equinox is a powerful day in the year (perhaps the most important), where the energy is extra favorable for accelerating your growth and launch yourself into the reality that you want to live in (yes—it’s your choice). …
Spring is here, and with it comes the Spring Equinox…
The Spring Equinox is a powerful day in the year (perhaps the most important), where the energy is extra favorable for accelerating your growth and launch yourself into the reality that you want to live in (yes—it’s your choice).
If you are able to move through this portal, with clarity and vision you can expect the energy to help carry you through all until the next year’s spring equinox. It’s a wave of energy that you can catch, and ride for the rest of the year.
MOVE WITH CLARITY
In order for this to happen it is important that you align yourself with that energy + that you have a clear vision of where you want to go.
There has never been a more perfect time to find (or refine) your mission in life than right now, before this Spring Equinox window.
Now you might ask me (and several people have), How do I find my mission?
Here’s my quick guide that will answer that question for you:
Finding you mission in life can seem really big, and sometimes overwhelming. Instead of asking yourself what is my mission in life? Try to rephrase the question, take the pressure off, and ask yourself: what am I interested in? What injustices in the world makes my heart ache? What absolutely lights me up or lights the fire under me? This can give you some great hints and answers.
Look at the people around you who you are jealous of—what do they have? what do they do? what are they recognized for? What do you feel jealous of? This can give you an idea of what your soul is actually yearning for.
A note: Jealousy is felt because we feel that something actually belongs to us, and we feel frustrated that we don’t have it. We often criticize the people we are jealous of, to make ourselves feel better about our desires. Instead try to thank those people (just in your mind is okay) for being guides and maps for what you wish for for yourself.
If nothing seems to motivate or interest you, try to imagine your future self. What do you KNOW that you want to accomplish in this life time? Is there anything you could imagine for your future self? (Where are you living? Who are you with? Are you a parent? Do you have a certain lifestyle? Who are your friends with? Etc.) Focus ONLY on moving yourself in that direction. You don’t have to have it all figured out or even have clarity about what exactly your mission is.
A note: What you are doing is that you are moving yourself in the direction of that future self. Keep the image in your mind of your future self, and start making decisions that match up with that person that you will become. The universe will arrange the rest for you. Stay open to receive what comes in. Focus on strengthening your nervous system so you will be able to hold your future self. The stronger your nervous system is quicker you will get there.
The next question that I am often asked is, What is it that is prohibiting me from aligning with and delivering my mission?
Here are my answers to that:
Societal conditioning. We are brought up with a lot of misconceptions around what constitutes a “whole” human being, fx by thinking that we should be good at everything, and have a well rounded education. Or we are told to choose a “safe” occupation, or that we should “be realistic”, and shouldn’t “daydream”. This does not support us in finding and delivering our mission which is about following our intuitive hunches, and feeling secure enough and free enough to explore and pursue what interests us.
Chasing immediate emotional and sensory satisfaction. These can disturb us when we talk about aligning with our mission. Look, it’s not that having desires and fulfilling them is bad. It’s not about being a chiastic robot who feel no emotions or sensual desires. But when we constantly try to immediately satisfy ourself we engage with a chase, that is never ending. When do we truly feel satisfied? Usually it is when we have accomplished something big. This is the satisfaction we want to go for. Sacrifice immediate gratification for playing the long term rewards.
Here are some examples of what that looks like:
—I want to eat chocolate, but I want glowy skin and stable energy more. I won’t eat the chocolate, and satisfy that immediate desire.
—I want to go out with my friends, but I want to get up early to catch the day and do my yoga practice more. I won’t go out tonight.
—I want to have more money, so I said yes to this job but it’s draining me, and now I don’t have as much time to work on my creations.
—I want to work on my creations full time, but I can barely make ends meet. I’m going to sacrifice some of my time to work an extra job, so I can save up and put the money towards properly launching my own business, and I will be able to pay myself out and be comfortable as I launch it.
—I’m not going to go on vacation this year, because I want to focus all my energy on delivering my mission, and I want to save the money so that I can hire my first employee.
Ask yourself: what sacrifices am I willing to make to get where I want to go?
Habits and patterns that doesn’t serve us. Oftentimes we are so deep into a habit that it can be very hard to break out of it, and even the best of intentions far short for the power of the pattern. This is where we need tools that can help us lighten the burden. Plus, when we find what we are really truly passionate about, it usually lights a fire in us that gives us the energy we need in order to break free of the habit. We essentially feel overpowered by the habit or subconscious pattern because we don’t have enough energy in our system, so in order to break out of it, we need to add whatever can give us more energy—really, true, authentic, self created energy; let’s avoid the “3 corporate Cs”: cigarettes, cocaine and coffee(!)
ALIGN WITH THE ENERGY
Life + mission = soul fulfillment (that’s the long lasting everyday kind that isn’t wavered by outside conditions)
Paired with deep subconscious clearing in the form of meditation (kundalini yoga) + strength training (positive psychology), you have a mission map that can take you exactly where you want to go in life. If the desire is true, and you’ve gained that clarity, you will be naturally supported.
Sometimes you aren’t being supported because the mission you think you want isn’t actually based in reality. That’s why you need your intuition to work for you so that you can find the real gem grade mission that your soul is here to make its legacy.
Once you have it, you are able to unlock an infinite energy stream, that sustains you, motivates you and gets you going every day. Effort is needed but once you’re there it becomes very effortless, and you are guided. Add a powerful portal day like the spring equinox and your possibilities are endless.
SUPPORT FOR YOUR MISSION
In 3 workshop on the 3 nights leading up the the Spring Equinox, we will work on gaining more clarity around our mission, so that we can move through the equinox day portal with maximized momentum.
How will we do it?
—Through mindset training and understanding key concepts around mission, vision and legacy work.
—Self Hypnosis practices for resetting your beliefs around your strengths and weaknesses.
—Open you up to your intuition with specific meditations.
—Targeted practices for relieving the subconscious burden, and letting go of habits which no longer serve.
—Self Psychology and exercises which uses your mind and psyche to help identify what brings your soul joy.
—Heart over head: Tapping into our core of truth, and listen to the wisdom of the heart.
—Self Hypnosis practices for future visioning.
—Specific meditations that are know for bringing through a stream of creativity, insight and deliver your mission to you.
These three workshops will give you the tools you need to find your mission, and motivate you to go after and realize it. We are using the momentum of the Spring Equinox, but this work can be done at any time in your life (you will have lifetime access to this course once you sign up).
Set yourself up for catching the energy of the Spring Equinox, and let it accelerate your into a life of feeling aligned, fulfilled and sustained by your soul’s mission, on a daily basis.
—Learn more and join by clicking the photo below.
THE POWER OF WOMEN. PERIOD.
Today is International Women’s Day. There is so much to say and there is so much I want to, and could say on the subject of women—where to even begin? We’ve come a long way in the last century and decades, in our fight for women’s rights. Still, our world does not operate in a way that is serving women well. That’s why many have made it their mission to claim their space by building their own freedom so that they can structure their lives in a way that serve their needs as women. …
Today is International Women’s Day. There is so much to say and there is so much I want to, and could say on the subject of women—where to even begin? We’ve come a long way in the last century and decades, in our fight for women’s rights. Still, our world does not operate in a way that is serving women well. That’s why many have made it their mission to claim their space by building their own freedom so that they can structure their lives in a way that serve their needs as women. We simply can’t rely on the structures provided by government, medical establishment (which still primarily research and provide solutions on health for men), or the corporate work environment. From the sides of the establishment, steps are taken but they are small. Change is moving along slow because the people who take decisions are still, primarily male. We cannot keep waiting for the outside world to change. The fastest way to change is by changing ourselves.
The best thing we can do is create our own financial freedom, which has never been more available for women than right now, even for mothers, as the opportunity to work from home or create your own business is very favorable. Voting with our wallet is still to this day one of the best thing we can do, and as women start to have more financial power (again, slowly, but surely) + women are now higher educated on average than men, this seems to be the best course of action.
That is why I believe that one of the most liberating things we can do as women right now is to learn about self sovereignty and prosperity. Creating financial freedom that is independent from our partners or husbands, if they are male—however wonderful and amazing they might be, when we rely financially on them we are making ourselves more vulnerable to have to follow their decisions and rhythms.
I am not about canceling men—at all! The polarity play of the male/female energy is one of the most powerful experiences we can have, and when we know how to make it work and be in conscious relationships, and support each other, we experience a beautiful dance, and deep satisfaction in life. It can be a beautiful union. But humans are selfish, and since men have been in charge for thousands of years now, men have created a society that mainly revolves around and serves them. Even the average man recognizes that this isn’t actually working anymore. As the polarities of earth are shifting, our consciousness and pull towards a more female and Shakti/mother aligned world is opening up. It is a natural shift that is happening within us, and soon it will manifest more clearly on the outside too.
How does the advancement of technology exist alongside our mother centered world? (I say mother as this is the archetype all women carry, regardless if they are mothers in this lifetime or not) This is one of the big questions I am asking myself, and as I see the energy moving towards an infusion of even more Shakti energy on planet earth, my intuitive answer is “no”. The biogenetic agenda will not succeed in implementing artificial wombs, or make us independent of the sustainment of Mother Nature, or cut us off from our need for authentic, in-person human connection.
Women are supported by the universal energy right now. We are moving forward, and towards a women centered world. Not necessarily a women led (matriarchal) but a women focused (matrifocal) world. I am hopeful, but I know that we need to be strategic, focused and independent in order to serve this mission together.
The area of this mission that is calling me the most—and that I am ready to work my a** off for— is women’s right to having the birth that they want. Because one area that is showing way too little progress and where the powers at will still have way too firm a grip on is birth. Too often the mother is set aside, and statements like “as long as the baby is okay, right?” are being thrown around as a way to neglect the experience women have in childbirth. The statistics are absolutely appalling, and even the World Health Organization has stated that we are in a global crisis, and that any rate of cesarean births or inductions should not surpass 15%. We are at about 40-50% in most countries, and that is a rising number. There is absolutely no excuse or need for these procedures to be performed so frequently, except if the agenda is to sabotage women’s birth. That is the only concluding agenda.
As women are getting ahead in the “outside” world, they are still being attacked at the moment when they are most vulnerable—at the birth of their children.
The complacency we are trained to have with authorities (particularly those in white coats), is largely to blame. Only 100 years ago, birth and attending births was still a women’s practice, and it did not take place frequently in a hospital. This practice is very new, and I regard it as a power grab, and one that is going pretty unnoticed by the general public, until we are confronted with it in our own experiences as pregnant women, and partners.
Just like in the beginning of this text I was talking about creating independence, this is the same approach that we need, if we want to reclaim our births. Which means honoring our right to choice, and protecting ourselves from cohesion, and even just fundamentally understand our human and legal rights (which everyday are being transgressed in these medicalized environments). Not only to protect our physical bodies, our babies and our psyche, but also to reclaim childbirth as the immensely powerful rite of passage that it is. I acknowledge that not every women is interested in their birth experience being that, but the majority wants and women are generally left with feelings of innadequewncy and disappointment after their birth, and in (too) many cases with depression, or PTSD.
If we are talking about fighting for our rights and freedom as women, we have to look at the conditions around giving birth, and how it is being used as a means of oppression. At least for me this is where I will put in the work, to deliver my piece of the puzzle.
I believe that it is important for each woman to find the mission that is close to her heart.
We can’t on our own cover all areas but if we find what is calling us the most (a good indicator is what makes you cry with frustration when you think about it, or lights you up to the point that you don’t even consider the energy you have to put out, in order to do the work), we will together cover the grounds, and we have a real opportunity to be in support of the energetic shift.
I see it, I see how women are doing women’s work for women, and it is beautiful to witness. I feel the support and sisterhood. I see and recognize the incredible women around me who are doing their part in providing offers that help to heal the collective feminine. And as long as we don’t get distracted by tearing each other down (another agenda that we should stop buying into, is that women are like that), we can work together to create these shifts.
And what each one of us can do individually is work on becoming masterful women, and skilled at operating our female vehicle that we have been given in this incarnation—and teach our daughters the same. Knowing our feminine superpowers, appreciating ourselves, our qualities and features + connecting with, and open up to our intuition are key components for our personal and collective future as women.
DOING WHAT I DO BEST: YATRA
This past weekend I went on a yatra.
A yatra is not a leisurely trip or a vacation, although it might be as enjoyable as a trip or a vacation.
A yatra is a trip where you go to expand your consciousness.
Yatra was something I got introduced to through my spiritual practice, and is something that is practiced within that community.
A yatra is a way to expand your consciousness, just like the daily practice, events like White Tantric Yoga and going to classes and trainings. A yatra is a way of aligning yourself with the energy currents of planet earth and with the stream of consciousness which is beyond time.
Many people go visit places, that are considered “holy”. But not everyone leave with something, that could be considered “expanding” their consciousness.
Opening up those spaces to receive, takes intention.
This weekend we set ourselves up for having that experience with a yatra, first to White Tantric Yoga (quick google search can give you an idea of what that is) in Barcelona, where one day is the equivalent of practicing for 10 years nonstop—as if you were meditating day and night for 10 years straight.
Then we went one hour outside of Barcelona, to Montserrat, a monastery and a church which houses a the black Madonna. The black madonna is considered in esoteric Christianity as a symbol for the hidden christ teachings for women, and a symbol of the female lineage of christ (Mary Magdalene and Sarah Tamara). More on this fascinating topic another time—this post is about yatra, after all.
So what was the intention behind our yatra?
My experience with meditating at “sacred sites” have been absolutely astonishing for me. I have received my direction in life through going to holy places and meditating. I am not exaggerating—my life has taken some drastic turns whenever I have visited holy sites and meditated there. It is more powerful for me when we go as a group, and a teacher of mine is present—they help open up the space more deeply—but even going on my own has often times given me the answer and the direction I needed.
Places to go to on a yatra, can be a place where someone else has historically received enlightenment, or where a group of practitioners or a spiritual community used to reside. Those places attracted those people for a reason, and it is an indicator of a place or an area that house more energy, than what is usual, or crosses a certain type of current of energy.
Once you are there you want to put yourself into a meditative state, so that you can go beyond the everyday chatter of the mind, which can be distracting you from picking up on the frequency and messages. It is easier to tap into that state when you have a daily practice of tapping into that state. You can do any meditation you wish, although some are preferable to others, as they are more discrete and catch less attention (I wouldn’t start Subagh kriya in a monastery or church fx), or you tap into the Shunnia and Sunniai state of nothingness and of listening.
The mystical events I have experienced at a sacred site, don’t translate well into this blogpost format, so I won’t be sharing anything specific about what happened this past weekend or in my past yatra experiences. But as I was saying earlier: direction in life, is what yatraing has given me and continues to give me. I have literally received direction to anything from finding my life partner, what to focus on when teaching + inspiration when I was stuck on a project and blessings, and also mystical abilities and occurrences which have confirmed my experience of this planet, as having way many more layers than what we meet in every day life.
The practice of going on Yatras helps move me forward, and gives speed and direction to my life.
This past year I have gone to France, to Sainte Baume for the Mary Magdalene cave, and to Israel (for the third time) to visit the countless holy sites there and spend time in the energy of the land, and to many places in Mallorca—which is what drew me to live on the island in the first place. The energy there is of a high frequency. Mallorca is a quartz island and houses many places where historical figures have received enlightenment, or creativity insights, and when you can tap into that, it can speed up and accelerate your growth. And now to Montserrat where I had the most intense bodily experience I’ve ever had bowing to a statue(!)—it was wild.
I am telling you my experience with Yatras, to encourage your own curiosity when visiting sites, to give a little bit of direction for what to do when you are there, and to potentially help accelerate your growth. We need people on this planet who are moving at the speed of light, creating change, taking charge with a conscious mind, and who can become leaders of this new era. I believe that understanding how to pick up information across timelines will help us get to that place faster. There is a message for us hidden in plain sight. The more people learn to tap into it the better for our collective consciousness. When we learn to listen, we make fewer mistakes, and spend less time roaming around in the illusions of life. Kundalini Yoga is a Shakti Path after all, and we are here to take action, to lead, and to create change. I believe in the winning combination of daily practice, gathering in spiritual community (trainings, White Tantric Yoga etc.), and yatras, where we can get a stronger direction in life.
—Where to next?
Yatra with me on Mallorca
I am available for private and group excursions to sacred places in Mallorca. You can book either by emailing me here, and through RA MA Mallorca.
CLEANING THE FILTER
Why do we do the things we do, the way we do them?—this question is one I remember pondering, since a very young age. I think many have had similar questions go through their head: Why am I the way I am? What makes me be this way? Why do I react like this? Where does this pattern come from? Etc. Life is infinitely interesting, if you ask me. And one of the most interesting and fascinating things for me to study is, well… me…
Why do we do the things we do, the way we do them?—this question is one I remember pondering, since a very young age.
I think many have had the same or similar questions go through their head: Why am I the way I am? What makes me be this way? Why do I react like this? Where does this pattern come from? Etc.
Life is infinitely interesting, if you ask me. And one of the most interesting and fascinating things for me to study is, well… me.
It’s not out of a navel-gazing, self-centered and self-important desire to put myself as the center of the universe (although sometimes we can feel like that too, right?), but I’m here all the time. In my world, I’m here all the time. And I am the filter which I see the whole world through. So “what is this filter?” becomes a natural question to ask.
Asking that question, is for many when they start their “spiritual journey”. Figuring out “who we are” and why things are the way they are is a natural urge, but some are more strongly drawn to go deep into the discovery than others.
When we go deeper into these question, answers can be revealed to us. Some answers come to us fast and immediate, while others can be difficult to find the root of. That’s where the healing journey often begin.
Whenever we encounter a block, or lose the trail, we are invited to go even deeper, or try a different strategy/method/approach.
The work of consciously move thought ourself, encounter the blocks, release the blocks, or accept them for now, if we cannot find a way through, is what healing ourselves look like.
Sometimes the process is very logical and cognitive. Sometimes it is emotional, and bodily. Sometimes it is immediate and illogical, like a quantum leap—an immediate healing.
We often meet our limitations when we engage with and interact with other people, (and that is why relationships are the highest yoga, as I talked about in a pervious blog post), and with the world, because we are poked and provoked more easily, so our filter is activated.
We can also activate the filter through practices, and through our relationship to our practice. This is how we can work out things in what can feel like a little bit more of a safe container, within our self.
And the journey continues and continues…
What we get in return from this journey of discovery, is (hopefully) more joy and ease in life. A more immediate experience of life, where we don’t have to feel constricted by our filters so much.
This is how life is really meant to be. And as we start to break down the illusions of our filters, we can feel a different sense of wholeness. Like we are able to connect a little bit deeper with something very pure and true.
It’s not like we go through life and we feel “untrue” or “impure”, or not whole beings—and thank God for that!
Often times we will go through life, and not necessarily feel like anything major is wrong. We’re just sort of fine, and we are considering ourselves normal.
Everyone has problems right? Everyone get sad/angry/depressed sometimes, right? So no big deal at all.
Often time we won’t realize the weight of a pattern until we have dropped it. And that’s honestly pretty great, because if we all felt the weight from which we are operating under, we might have a hard time even getting out of bed (hmmm…. Sometimes it is hard to get out of bed, I wonder why that could be?)
Do you ever feel a resistance to just doing what needs to be done? It can be in the smallest things, like getting up and getting yourself a glass of water when you’re thirsty, or doing the job assignment that is right in front of you. And in the biggest of things, like accepting an amazing invitation to a job you wanted but now you feel hesitant. Or meeting the love of your life, the perfect person, and now you are sabotaging it. Why does this happen to us?
Because we are all operating under the weight of some pretty heavy and huge filters—or carrying around “backpacks” which can work as a fitting illustration for this narrative. And because we have been carrying them around for so long, we don’t even realize that they are there anymore.
We don’t really understand the huge weight which we are living under, until we start to look at how limited and restricted we are in our way of operating.
Oftentimes we don’t realize the weight of a limitation until we drop it. Have you every had a “breakthrough”? A moment in your life where things started to change? You felt more energized, you could operate more freely in the world, and you got things done. That’s one of those moments where you dropped a huge backpack or broke through a limitation. The weight is gone and now you are more free.
Similarly we can build up limitations in our life, when we start to ignore things. Fx. if we have a need for touch and intimacy, but our current situation doesn’t offer us the possibility to have that need met. So we start to shut down that part and we desensitize to it. In the beginning we feel a loss, but as time goes by we forget about the need. We desensitize to it, and we neglect finding a solution to it. Now we completely forgot about the need, and we have build a pattern of not only not feeling touch and intimacy but also of neglecting our own need.
This can lead to emotions being expressed in unexpected situations, because what we were really upset about has been suppressed, yet the pattern of anger or bitterness fx. which are emotional and therefore not as easily ignored as a though, still sits there. And we might start to feel frozen around sexual energy, yet we don’t understand why. This is how a subconscious pattern is formed. We start to act inappropriately, because what we are really reacting towards, we have long forgotten about.
Patterns are formed and broken continuously through out our entire life, from the time we arrive in our mother’s womb until the day we leave.
The spiritual journey is about forming better patterns and moving towards a place of more freedom and ease, so that we can live life feeling less restricted and inhibited, and we can feel content and contained. Our responses are appropriate and we have good navigational skills for living life on this planet.
And the journey is you’re to take and choose. The pace is yours to set and decide.
—To go deeper into this weeks blogpost theme, ask yourself these questions. You can meditate on them, or journal them out in a note book or phone notes.
What heavy load are you carrying? (Of course you can only list those that you are conscious about)
Do you have a strategy for how to move through the blocks?
When was the last time you felt a huge “backpack” drop, and you could move more freely?
Contemplate and ponder which sides of yourself you are currently shutting down? Can you do something to stir yourself in a more beneficial direction?
What does freedom look like for you?
Who expresses freedom in a way you wish you could express it? (We are often jealous of people because the represent a part of our burden that we have not been able to let go of yet)
What do they tell you about your own limitations or the limitations you put on yourself?
THE GOLDEN RULE OF LIFE
Leaving life up to chance, can be a very unfulfilling experience. In every single moment you have an opportunity to ask yourself: what do I want to have a bigger experience of right now? Let’s break that down: Following this idea of having a bigger experience, takes some maturity and claiming responsibility over your existence—I know, not something we are so used to doing. What usually happens is that when things aren’t going the way we want them to, we blame and externalize. …
Leaving life up to chance, can be a very unfulfilling experience.
In every single moment you have an opportunity to ask yourself: what do I want to have a bigger experience of right now?
Let’s break that down:
Following this idea of having a bigger experience, takes some maturity and claiming responsibility over your existence—I know, not something we are so used to doing. What usually happens is that when things aren’t going the way we want them to, we blame and externalize. “I can’t be happy because x, y and z” is our usual response.
What I’ve found is that rather than externalize, when I claim real ownership over my own situation, and I take full responsibility, I gain so much more personal power and energy, and I have a real opportunity to have an experience of the life that I want to have. And that usually makes me feel more fulfilled.
Taking responsibility means that I am in charge of the situation. I am in control, and I decide where I’m going with this and how I want to feel.
If you read this now and think that “deciding” what to feel is fake or mechanical, consider this: what else is determining how you feel? If it isn’t you, then what is? Is it the other person or the situation?
It’s actually your subconscious programming.
Our habits, reactive patterns, and how we experience life, is determined largely by our subconscious mind which is formed mostly in our childhood, and when we were in our mothers womb (yogic teachings says from the 120th day until 40 days out of the womb, science says from day of conception and for the next 3 years). How we react is a replay of certain patterns. Our beliefs about the world are formed at a time when we had little to no conscious control.
It is really not your fault at all, if you don’t have an amazing experience of life. But it also doesn’t help you to blame your parents, or others for your experience. That won’t change your patterns, and if it’s someone else who is responsible for them, it doesn’t leave you with much control to change it, does it?
If you want a better experience of life you have to start CHOOSING to have a better experience of life.
This is how you create a new pattern. Just like your old patterns were formed and became habits, you need to help yourself along to form new ones.
It starts by claiming ownership: I’m in charge. This is my domain.
Life as a human is lived through the lease of our own experiences.
It is largely a selfish journey that our soul is on. That’s okay. It’s not very new-agy or conventionally “spiritual” but any other claim falls short. Even when you give to another person, help people, do good in the world, you are doing that because you believe in it, it is valuable to you, and it offers you an opportunity to add to your identity and your experience of yourself. Feel free to challenge yourself (and me) on this one.
It is important to remember that boundaries are also part of your experience. This is where things get tricky. If we have a habit of letting people cross our boundaries, simply choosing to have a “bigger experience”, can become an escape and a way to turn the cheek. This is not sustainable, and won’t give us the experience of life that will feel fulfilling.
You have to go deeper than simply choosing to “see the good” in a situation.
Having a bigger experience is about staying open, and not shutting down to life. Even when we have do assert ourselves, or have a hard conversation, we are able to do so fully open. Having a bigger experience of yourself as being fierce, strategic and standing up for what you deserve, can 100% also be part of that experience.
Having a bigger experience of something does not mean that everything looks perfect all the time. In fact “going all in” can sometimes feel messy. Perfectionism is often what holds us back from simply going for it.
Having a bigger experience means paying attention, staying present, not escaping the situation. So that even when you are facing something difficult, and even when you get into situations where you are uncomfortable, and things aren’t going the way you want them to, you don’t shut down, or space out. Instead you face the moment, you make a new strategy, and you take charge of the situation.
Here’s are a few examples of how to start forming the habit of having a bigger experience of life:
—Make a vision statement for your life. Be clear about what it is that you overall want to have a bigger experience of. Start putting every situation that you meet through this mould.
—Whenever you feel an unproductive emotion arise, that can be your moment of inserting the though What do I want to have a bigger experience of? What am I choosing right now. Do I have a choice? (Yes) Is it possible for me to skip ahead to the moment when this is solved, and look back and see what the solution was? Can I simply choose the solution?
—Install “AI technology” into your 10 bodies (aka Kundalini Yoga). The kundalini yoga will start to automate your response to—and your experience of—the world, so that every moment become more enjoyable and of benefit to you.
Deciding to have a bigger experience is simple—but it isn’t always easy.
Kundalini yoga is one system that helps you get to a neutral place in your mind so that from there you can choose your experience. You need enough energy to stay present—the yoga will give you that. You need to be able to catch yourself and pause before reacting so that you can choose your direction carefully—the breath will give you that. You need to assist yourself constantly to choose a better direction—the mantras will give you that. And the meditation will help you release the subconscious patterns.
Practice going all in:
Try your best—for just one day at least—to embrace life 100%. Go all in on whatever it is that you are doing. Practice staying open, when you want to close or shut down. Be fully present or as much as you can at least.
Then ask yourself: what do I want to have a bigger experience of?
—is it my anger? My irritability? The other persons stupidity or shortcomings?
—or is it kindness, contentment, and uplifting the people around me?
It is usually quite easy to choose the experience you want to have in life when you are alone. It can get more complicated when you are relating to other people.
When relating to other people, can you be 100% present when someone speaks? Can you listen, and not prepare your answer in your own head while they are talking? Can you find their very best qualities and features and focus on them?
This is one way in which you can have a bigger experience of life. It is largely a choice. Begin with that choice today, and set a new habit of taking charge of the experience you are having. Make it a conscious choice.
Your negative habits were formed by you confirming them. Now start confirming a different experience. Your life is entirely up to you.
So… What do you want to have a bigger experience of?
WHY RELATIONSHIPS ARE THE “HIGHEST YOGA”
Why do we practice yoga? Because it works wonderful to exercise both our minds and bodies as well as connect our spirit to the universal “God force” in the universe. There are many different reasons why someone would want to practice this.
This ancient/future system has never been more relevant—or more popular—than it is today. …
Why do we practice yoga? Because it works wonderful to exercise both our minds and bodies as well as connect our spirit to the universal “God force” in the universe. There are many different reasons why someone would want to practice this.
This ancient/future system has never been more relevant—or more popular—than it is today. Even if we look to ancient times when perhaps more people had a spiritual practice, most was done in secret societies or in hiding. Or it was available only to a select group. In light of this, I would like to make the bold statement that yoga has never been more popular than it is today.
We are seeking, we are waking up—Age of Aquarius and all that stuff. And the polarities of the planet widens, there is a compelling need for us to find ways to to feel closer, and connect more than ever before. Both mentally, and socially through varies globalized methods, and through the widespread of spirituality.
There are of course downsides to all of it—as we live in a polarity planet everything here has a high and a low frequency. I’m not going to list all of them here. But when we look at some of the positive aspects to globalization like the spread of ideas and communications—therefore the rapid expansions of the mind—or the wide range of healing modalities that has become available because of globalization, it is quite interesting to look at what it all have in common: relations.
No surprise here, we are in the Age of Aquarius and that is all about community. When you’re around other people, you have to relate to them. Even if our ways of relating have and are rapidly changing, it’s still a common theme: relating.
We can see it in another way, when polarity is expanding in scope, this cause us to seek polarity from polarity which is closeness.
That is why relationship is the most relevant spiritual experience we can engage in right now. This is not only my personal experience, it is also a yogic teaching.
Yoga means union—“to yoke”—and to bring together. Yoga is a practice to bring together the polarities within. To find union with ourselves, and bring awareness to the infinity of our soul—to merge with the infinite.
But the “level” after that, is to unite together. Two in one. “Two Bodies, One Soul”—that is how marriage is described in the yogic sutras.
Notice how I said the “level after”? If we have not had an experience of yoga within, it can be very difficult to have that experience with someone else. Many people don’t have that soul expanding and merging experience in their relationship, perhaps because they never experienced it within themselves first?
Now all of this seems very grand, and even philosophical. It does not seem to fit in with school runs, sleepless baby nights, or even just work, business and “social media life”. Most of us just want to know what to watch on Netflix next, so the idea of merging with infinity, much less merging with infinity and another person—seems a far removed concept.
I promise you: it is extremely practical. Mystical too. Infinite and grand too. But the process to get there is not as complicated as one might think.
Love is simple: Love is acceptance. Love is in the kindness and compassion towards someone else. And above all: Love is a choice.
So how come so many of us have a negative experience of being in a relationship—the place to give and receive love? Well, love is not only what happens between two people. Love is something that you choose to have, choose to give and choose to be.
Relationships CAN surely BE a deep experience of inebriating passionate love as it plays out in the polarities of two people. When it does, that is a very satisfying and nourishing experience. But as emotions it has its highs and lows.
When we instead focus our relationship on its power to be a healing modality, and a practice– just like when we do yoga–we have a deeper experience of ourselves.
How do you approach your yoga practice? Well, you first probably had to learn a bit about it, not necessarily gather data, but have the experience. You went to a class, or you picked up a book about it, and you started to practice. You didn’t go in and just started to randomly do stuff. You went in with reverence, an open mind and wanting to learn. As you grew in experience your need for more practices, and tools maybe also grew? Or you stuck to one practice, but you did it because it works, not out of dogma. The most important—what guides you and what makes you want to do your practice—is the experience you have, and in many ways the pleasure you feel in growing, and remembering your soul's connection to the infinite.
In the same way, when we approach our relationship as a spiritual practice, our experience of it changes.
In many cases, relationships are so normal that we take them for granted. Most of us are not in a conscious relationship that we regard as a spiritual practice. We are not experiencing an expansion of our souls, and we might feel very dissatisfied by the experience. It is not your fault, if your relationship does not fulfill you on a soul level. You’ve probably never been taught anything about relationships at all, besides what you observed happening between your parents.
Nobody wants to be in a dysfunctional relationship. So why do we end up there?
If you are in any type of relationship and you don’t enjoy it, and you find yourself asking that question: you’re there because of your subconscious mind. Most of us are in relationships that are moulds of our subconscious desires. And those aren’t as reliable as our conscious ones. It can get real messy and disturbing.
Or perhaps your relationship is fine, you might have found a parter that you are “really attracted to”(red alert!), but you find that you argue over silly stuff, or just can’t help amplify negative emotions, and you end up creating an atmosphere that isn’t pleasant to be in.
Whatever it might be, know this: relationships are here to provoke us.
Relationships are a means to work through our stuff. Conscious relationship are the practice to work on it together. Being in a relationship amplifies our subconscious patterns, and provoke them so that we have to become aware of them, and then deal with them.
But how do you want to play that game? By chance? Going in without knowing the rules? Going in without any tools? Or do you want to be a pro player?
When we work on our relationship “skillset” we become the pro players. The game is more fun, and we can reach higher goals and leagues. We know what we’re doing, and we can have more wins. We can also work out our issues faster, and with only a fraction of the pain.
It’s all quite practical actually. There are rules to a relationship, and there are steps that can be taken, and skill that can be mastered so that you become a better player (and I absolutely do not mean that in the sense of being a player and start hooking up with a lot of people—just, no).
Firstly, you have to clear your subconscious mind. This is because it’s not the conscious part of you who got you to your relationships. If that is not who got you here, even if you change partner, you might end up at the same place, because the subconscious is who’s running the show.
There are so many systems that work on clearing subconscious blocks or change the subconscious script. The most powerful one I know is called Kundalini Yoga. If you want to give it a chance, try this meditation to clear the subconscious mind.
Secondly, you want to learn about communication and how words affect others. One word said in the wrong way at the wrong time, can tear down an entire relationship. Words are powerful. Becoming a good communicator is a vital step.
This is largely about mindset, and a lot can be done when you shift your perspective of your partner and set up a good “game plan”. See my 5 “hacks” to improve a relationship here.
Thirdly, you want to understand relationship dynamics. How does the energy flow? Who is the giver and who is the taker? What does it mean to create polarity play? These are all yogic teachings that can be very efficient.
Attraction is something most people leave to chance. But that’s not very sustainable, if we want to create long-lasting committed partnerships. Most people are able to have a bigger experience of the intimacy in their relationship over time, because they start to open more and trust more, and as the layers are shed, deep intimacy emerges.
And finally, understanding how to build purpose together with your partner, might make you more committed to your relationship in the long run.
Prioritizing having those big experiences with each other is a magnet that can help hold the relationship together, years after years, decades after decades. Of course I am going to suggest yogic practices and couples meditation (or White Tantric Yoga) but there are also other ways. Even making a plan together as a couple, stating common goals and creating a vision. Then celebrating when you win together. That can be a beautiful and conscious way to help create a joined identity.
Relationships give us a huge opportunity to work through our differences, but we want it to be a clean game, not a dirty one. By setting up a frame for our relationship and approaching it from the same place of reverence as we do with our spiritual practice, we can engage in deep healing work, pleasure and find union with infinity through our partner. If we realize that we are part of the infinite–or God creation–we will understand that our partner is too, and that is a huge shift of consciousness that can affect our experience of our relationship in a positive way. This is why relationship is the highest yoga, and the one that is most needed today.
THE “OVERACHIEVER EXHAUSTION COMPLEX”
—AND HOW TO BEAT IT
Have you spotted the current trend in the “wellness world”? I’ve called it the “overachiever exhaustion complex”.
Many people who have been seeking healing, or engaged in self improvement practices are genuinely burned out. They get tired of feeling like there’s something wrong with them, or that they have to “fix” themselves constantly. …
—AND HOW TO BEAT IT
Have you spotted the current trend in the “wellness world”? I’ve called it the “overachiever exhaustion complex”.
Many people who have been seeking healing, or engaged in self improvement practices are genuinely burned out. They get tired of feeling like there’s something wrong with them, or that they have to “fix” themselves constantly. I get it. Honestly, who wants to feel that way? There’s no energy in such a space.
What I’ve noticed though—and I believe it to be a side trend—is that with that comes a critique or an overall rejection of anyone wanting to commit, impose discipline and work hard towards their goals. “Hustling” to achieve your goals is out, and lounging around is very much in. To some it serves, and for others it has become yet another prison of an excuse to play small in life. I admit to have been caught in that space myself sometimes. I feel like we have gotten a little bit sidetracked, or used our judgment wrong though.
You don’t want to not succeed. You don’t want to not achieve in life. You don’t want to not work towards your dreams, have wins, and expand your life and have bigger experiences. But in order to feel truly fulfilled by your accomplishments you need to first break up with your conditioning of what that looks like.
Discipline is not the enemy. Working hard is not the enemy. Success is not the enemy. The enemy is your lack of lust for life, lack of true purpose and lack of passion (and really of perspective: carrying out your passion is an act of COMpassion—if you only knew what a difference what you have to offer could make in others peoples life, there’s no way that you wouldn’t go for it, and go big!)
You’re tired, you’re exhausted, you are overwhelmed. You lack the chi which drives your vehicle forward. You’re sick of the hustle and bustle—because something outside of you is driving the car and not you.
No one has a problem with doing the work, putting in the effort and the energy if what they work towards is meaningful to them. When you have purpose you do what it takes, and you know how to shift the gears.
What is most likely making you feel exhausted, and what you have to overcome is conditioning. Even when I say: “success”, “failure, “win” you automatically go to the programming you have around those words. What did “winning” look like in your childhood? And what is the measure of success that you see in the lives of those around you?
I am not saying that it is not okay to take a break. If you have been in a situation where you were doing everything and all, and hustled for results that were not fulfilling—maybe you do need a time out. That’s great, that’s also a win. You realized and recognized that what you were doing isn’t working for you, and isn’t fueling you with infinite energy. You are expanding your awareness and consciousness and recognizing the patterns. You know how to shift gears.
We are all constantly moving forward in life—we literally live on a planet that never stands still, always moving, circling, spiraling. It’s normal if you feel the motion sickness. While some people have a steady pace, constantly moving one foot in front of the other, others might do a sprint and then retreat for a while. And the journey of moving forward is not just about the external measurements of what that looks like, it is much more about the internal steps that we take. And those can happen invisibly while we retreat from the world. No one can know what journey you are on but you.
But I do see how there is a general resistance to moving right now, to reach for success, to keep disciplined, to stick it out, and that’s why I feel called to talk about it here, because I was asking myself: where is that conversation? I don’t see it anywhere. What I see is people abandoning working towards their dreams because instagram influencers told them that if you work more than 4 hours a day you aren’t doing it right. Can you really afford to slow your pace down? Or have you just found a comfortable resting place in the idea that working hard to achieve results is exhausting?
Another reason for why so many people feel a lack of purpose right now, is that our planet is going through what is yogicly known as a ‘cold depression’. This fog is dazing and confusing us, making it harder to see clearly our purpose, or to see the purpose of anything at all for that matter. For this I only have one advice: practice more yoga. Kundalini yoga was made for these times and for getting through cold depression (if you feel very cold or “damp” after your yoga practice, this could be a sign of cold depression leaving your body).
The worst, which is happening right now, is the cold depression. Cold depression is a state of mind, which you are depressed, but you are not aware of it. And with that you want to destroy everything you want to touch, because you don’t feel things respond to you. You are not aware of the fact that you are also under the cold depression. So, what we need in our society today is compassion, power to listen, strength, tolerance.
—Yogi Bhajan, October 17, 2000
My purpose with this blog post is to bring awareness, and perhaps maybe even wake up some of you out there, who have gotten your lack of passion confused with the “underachievers anonymous” trend. Sometimes it can help to reframe the words. “Purpose” and “passion” might just not be what drives you forward when you are stuck. Then ask yourself: “what deeply interests me? What can I do for hours on end without feeling tired?” or “ What might I have to do in order to have enough financial freedom to fund this passion of mine?” —It is not always about finding a way to monetize your passion. You have to have vision and look ahead.
Your creativity will take care of the “how”. You just focus on the “why” for now. The only failure is failure to try.
I wholeheartedly believe that if everyone could do what was meaningful to them, and what felt deeply purposeful, the world would be like a big puzzle solved. Or a perfect clockwork. Every single one of us has something to offer. I am genuinely curious to know what you have to offer. What problems of mine (and others) might you be able to solve, so that my life can flow even?
We are here because we want to expand. We want to overcome. We want to succeed. To taste victory. To feel what it is like to win. But remember: true is true for you. What does your success look like? What does winning look like for you? That’s where I want you to go! That’s where infinite energy lies. That’s where true happiness and fulfillment lies. Don’t be afraid of going for “conventional” success (money, fame, beating the odds etc.) they’re there for a reason, but who are you trying to impress at the end of the day? I hope it’s yourself. Impress yourself. Show yourself your greatness. And you will get your infinite energy potential back.
WHY I STOPPED COMPLAINING
I was not really born an optimist (or maybe I was, but my immediate environment quickly changed it). Optimism is something I have had to train, just like any other “muscle” that I’ve worked hard for (because strong physic is also not something I was inherently born with).
I still remember the day when I finally realized that I had all the choices in life. And that I also had enough energy and mental power to take responsibility for making those choices. That was a day of true liberation for me. …
… AND STARTED DOING THIS INSTEAD.
I was not really born an optimist (or maybe I was, but my immediate environment quickly changed it). Optimism is something I have had to train, just like any other “muscle” that I’ve worked hard for (because strong physic is also not something I was inherently born with).
I still remember the day when I finally realized that I had all the choices in life. And that I also had enough energy and mental power to take responsibility for making those choices. That was a day of true liberation for me.
When I finally brought to light my excessive habit of complaining, it was no short of revolutionary how much of my time I was actually spending in that mental headspace.
I, like most people I believe, had been pretty unconscious about what was going on in my mind, for a great part of my life, until I started paying attention (for me the book ‘The Power of Now’ was what did it).
Moving towards a reality where I am conscious about everything I do, and have a saying and a choice, is what I consider to be my “spiritual work”. Expanding my conscious mind, gaining insights into my subconscious mind, and in deep states of meditation, even touching the unconscious mind, is part of my daily life and what I want to have a greater experience of (a great question to ask yourself and gain clarity on).
When we don’t know something, we don’t have a choice. When clarity comes, we start to have choices.
That’s how I stopped complaining: I became aware of how much time I was actually spending on it. Precious time, that I could spend on building up instead of tearing down. Later on I realized that complaining is not only a complete waste of my time and energy (as it means being stuck in a space without taking action), I also came across a study that actually shows how this behavior kills your braincells! Even by listening to someone complain you lose braincells.
Several studies—the most famous one being the one from 2019 conducted by Robert Sapolsky at Stanford university—shows that complaining wires your brain for negativity. But here’s the good part: your brain has the power to transform (it’s called neuro plasticity for those new to it, and it is quite fascinating). By repetition, you can transform how you think (also the automated thoughts).
Whenever we want to change a habit, it can be useful to put something instead. This week I have had to change a habit which had stopped serving me. We ended our breastfeeding journey after 2.5 years. It meant both for me and my son that we had to redefine a lot of our behavior. Obviously, (or maybe not so obvious?) I felt it was easier for my son to adapt than for me, as children generally have less set habits than adults.
I am someone who love habits, I cling to them (so many earth sign placements *sigh*). This whole thing is actually for me not about taking away the habits, but replacing them with something that is useful, constructive and serves.
The possibility to change is always there for us, but depending on how deep rooted the habit is, it will take an equal amount of effort to change it (with kundalini yoga there are shortcuts though).
Now when something bothers me, or when I am upset about something, instead of externalizing, blaming, and complaining, I take a deep breath and I ask myself “do I really really want to spend energy towards this? Do I really want to feed that habit and potentially make it stronger?” I could spend hours, maybe days, in that space. I can completely see it to the end. So I might as well skip it right? So that’s what I do now: I literally just cut to the end, to that space where I already solved it/got over it/quit it etc. That’s my replacement habit.
Easier said than done of course, but consider this: When we complain about something, it is because we get stuck. We can’t move forward from what happened, and so we keep repeating it, to ourselves or to others.
In yogic science there is a practice to stop “complaining, competing and comparing”. Those 3 Cs are a cause of unhappiness in our lives. When we can avoid said behavior we literally become more happy.
Those three Cs can be replaced with 3 other Cs: Being Content, Contained and Continuous.
When we are content, contained and continuous, we cannot complain. When we know how to keep moving forward (being continuous), when we know how to be the masters of our own energy field, and we do not enter the neurotic thoughts of others (being contained), and when we know how count our blessings and not our curses (being content) then we can keep moving forward, and not get stuck in our habits of complaining, competing and comparing. (There’s another saying that whatever comes to you, is either a blessing or a challenge—never a curse—and that is a really good attitude to adopt as well I believe).
Try it for yourself, and see how this mindset shift has the power to transform how you feel, and the level of happiness that you experience in your daily life.
I invite you to try 40 days of no complaining, competing and comparing—and instead be contained, content and continuous.
Watch your life transform.
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5 HARD TRUTHS AND A DARE
… about spirituality (and the people who teach it)
#1: You can’t actually teach spirituality
You can use spiritual practices to get into a position where you can catch it.
(Time can also be a teacher. But it is a slow game)
“Spirituality is not taught, it is caught”—ever heard that sentence? Spirituality is not something you can actually teach someone else. …
… about spirituality (and the people who teach it)
#1: You can’t actually teach spirituality
You can use spiritual practices to get into a position where you can catch it.
(Time can also be a teacher. But it is a slow game)
“Spirituality is not taught, it is caught”—ever heard that sentence? Spirituality is not something you can actually teach someone else.
So what is this all even about then?
Spiritual practices have existed for as long as humans have existed. We are born here to experience infinity in a finite form, and with the purpose of our souls to have that experience (but it might not happen for everyone. More on that later in this text).
Many spiritual systems have been established, and religions have been formed, from the understanding of someones spiritual experience of enlightenment, and how to achieve that. Spiritual teachers have been named and famed. But how does it actually work? Does it work?
There is not enough space in this email to answer that question in details, but know this:
A spiritual teacher can’t teach someone spirituality (it is not a left brain practice). So hard stop.
What the practices does, is that it puts you in a position where you are:
1. Aware. You are actively looking for it, which increase your chances of having that experience (which really happens within yourself)
2. From doing activities like yoga and meditation, you probably feel better within your body and mind so there is less noise to distract you. You start listening on all parameters, which increases your awareness, and contributes to a more spiritual (connected, meaningful, joyous) experience of life.
Sometimes it is the opposite happening which leads you to find new ways. Sometimes you can have so much noise and pain in your body that you HAVE TO find a way to change it, and that active search then creates the “silence” within.
3. Consciousness CAN be transferred as an energy field, from teacher to student. But you need to be in a position to receive it, and to be able to hold it (nervous system strength and maturity). Using different spiritual systems and practices (I’m not talking only about Kundalini Yoga here), can position you in a way so that you have a greater chance of that happening.
Side note: Time is also a teacher…
If you don’t practice within any spiritual system, time can be a teacher for you. It works slower and is less safe, because you don’t have a direct guide. You can definitely go about the path alone, but just as one doesn’t climb to the highest peak on the mountain alone, it is just harder to reach high states of consciousness without a guide. Most people who do not have a spiritual teacher, are only able to roam around in the lower areas of the mountain, where there is less danger and risks (there are a few exceptions, but more on that later in this text). If you want to ascend to the highest peak, it’s advised that you get yourself a guide. They can’t do the climb for you though.
#2: We are not all here to become enlightened
80% of people are so called “landscape people”, and their purpose here is not actually to advance their own consciousness.
(but they can be important figures for other to advance their consciousness).
>> This section should probable come with a trigger warning, as it has been my experience that people can get upset when I share this yogic teaching. I am sharing it anyways because I also believe it can bring comfort, and give perspective to other people and their behavior. To me it is an important yogic teaching.
It is said that 80% of people are so called “landscape people”. Only 20% of people on the planet (at any given time) are here to alter their consciousness. There are people who are part of the landscape for the remaining 20% to advance their soul. Their lives are mirrors that help the 20% change their consciousness, but they themselves do not actually change their state of consciousness in this lifetime. That does not mean that their lives are less valuable though. Their soul just do not experience the same type of advancement, and their purpose is of a different nature. Think of a very horrible dictator fx. He can spur the awakening of millions of other people who recognize the horror he is doing. His soul did not reach a state of consciousness where he could recognize his harm, so his soul died without an advancement, but it left an impressive mark on human consciousness.
Other spiritual systems might teach that every soul is being born pure, or that everyone is born the same, or that everyone took incarnation here in order to experience the infinite in a finite form. I will argue that the teachings can all co exist. It might be the purpose of this planet, and the energy field we live in here, but not every soul is successful in reaching that experience. It doesn’t mean that their lives are a waste.
Try to think about a person in your own life, perhaps there is someone who you feel very frustrated about? You are frustrated that they don’t change, that they can’t see things from your perspective, or that they were unkind to you. Maybe they just aren’t here to change their consciousness? Did you still learn something from that relationship? Most likely. Did they? Perhaps not—they just weren’t able to integrate the experience. Perhaps it even spark the need to change your life, and become more aware and conscious. So that person helped someone else become more conscious. But they didn’t integrate the experience within themselves.
Maybe it would be a good idea to talk a bit about what consciousness is…
Consciousness is just that: consciousness. It is neither good or bad. It’s in a way pretty simple. It’s about being more conscious to the subtle layers of life. You don’t need to have a spiritual language for that in order to experience it. Some people are very conscious and kind beings without being “spiritual” as an identity (more about that later in this text).
But if we were to put consciousness into language, it could look something like a range, from becoming aware of your thoughts, to feeling empathy for another person, to feeling energy flowing in your body, to experiencing subtle messaging through intuitive awareness, to transcending time and knowing the future, and to being able to accessing other planes of existence through your subtle body awareness, to feeling a complete merger with everything and all of existence. And of course with many nuances and functions in between. It’s all a spectrum, and we each operating on different ranges of that spectrum. Being on a spiritual path and increasing our consciousness means you are moving across that spectrum. Living a life of meaning though does not mean you have to be conscious about that spectrum.
Another thing: 1% of the 20% come here with “new information”. They are already enlightened. There is no advancement for them either but they are here to use their consciousness to awaken people en mass.
#3: Everything doesn’t work the same for everyone
Why are there so many religions in the world or spiritual systems? Because one size does not fit all.
(Going deep rather than wide will always give you a bigger experience though)
Not all remedies and methods work the same or are right for everyone. That’s why there are so many expressions of spirituality and so many religions in the world. There are many different ways to go about it.
This truth is rather simple: when we can accept that everyone has their own unique experiences of life, and of practices, and that we cannot possible know what is right for someone else, we experience great liberation within.
1. Because we stop comparing ourselves to others, which is one of the keys to becoming more happy and content with ourselves.
And 2. We stop feeling the need to convince anyone of anything. Don’t try to convince anyone of anything. If something worked for you, great! Radiate that. Shine that. Live it. There is a teaching that says, before teaching someone anything, they should ask you three times for it. Don’t feel the need to convince anyone to try something just because it worked for you. And know that someone might have a different experience with a practice than you.
Let people go about life in the way that they choose to.
If you find yourself being interested in a spiritual practice, system or teacher, my only advice is to give it an honest effort. If you don’t try something, you don’t know if it will work for you. If you find yourself hopping from one thing to the next, constantly, and you feel like you never get any real juice out of anything you do, it’s not the practice it is the relationship you have with practicing (and it will keep showing up again and again until you commit).
#4: Popularity does not ensure integrity.
Sometimes you can believe in the hype, but do not ONLY believe in the hype.
(Anyone can teach you something and help you along on the path though—if you are a good enough student)
The most popular and influential people in the world, are they all good guys? No. Sometimes you can believe in the hype, but do not ONLY believe in the hype.
Just because someone is popular doesn’t mean that what they offer is of high quality, or even relevant for you. Popularity does not ensure integrity of teaching. (If you have a hard time coming to terms with this or believe “fame” is a mark of quality just look at politicians and presidents—highly popular and well known, but mostly with zero integrity). Many people just uses consciousness as an identity, without much to back it up.
You should always study with the teacher you feel attracted to studying with, and you will learn something regardless: if you know how to be a good student. (The greatest pity I have is towards people who learned nothing from a situation, and that usually happen when we externalize and blame).
An example from my own life: my first KY teacher had full classes of 30-60 people every week. But she didn’t teach right (she literally told me that she would change the kriyas). So why did people go? Why did I go? Sometimes we’re not ready for the real thing. Our nervous system is too weak, our subconscious mind is resisting, we just don’t find our way to it, etc. The truth is I probably would never have started with this type of yoga, if it hadn’t been for her, as I simply wouldn’t have been attracted to, or interested in learning from anyone else who was teaching KY, at that point in my life. I am very grateful for her. I learned a lot (also about what not to do), and when I finally met my real teacher, I was able to recognize that.
So my point is: you never know why someone became the teacher they became, or why someone come to the teacher they come to. Don’t become the “Dark Angel” of humanity (refers to someone who carries out the judgement of God). Let people go through their own process. Don’t judge someone else’s path, or who they seek out as a teacher. You have no ides why they have to study with whom they study with, or what that encounter might lead to.
#5: Your destiny is mostly pre determined
You only have 20% free will.
(Pro tip: with Kundalini Yoga you can chip away on that, and get a bigger percentage of free will).
Not to go all original sin here, but according to yogic teachings 80% of our lives are already predetermined. Living in destiny means having full control over, and elevating, the remaining 20% to the highest possible outcome. There are different scripts you can choose. But mostly our lives are destined to unfold in a certain way.
Instead of turning that into something limiting, trust it. Lean on that. What needs to come to you will come to you. Trust that you have a great destiny. Use your spiritual practice to become more happy, more positive, more pure, clear and healthy—mentally and physically. Do your part but let destiny do it’s part too.
There is a story of a man who fell in the ocean. One shipped passed him by and offered to rescue him. “No I’m okay, God will save me.” He said. He drowned. When he got into heaven he asked God: “why didn’t you save me?” And God answered: “I sent you a ship, you dummy—why didn’t you get on board?”
When we get too fixed an idea of how everything should unfold in our lives, we might miss the boat. Our practice is meant to make us more flexible. The flexibility of the body in the yogic practices is a metaphor for the flexibility it is supposed to create in your mind.
#6: God only knows…
Dare to question anyone and anything that is being presented to you—especially if it is being presented as a truth
(You have full permission to let go of anything which doesn’t serve you.)
Truth in this world IS subjective, simply because you live this life in a subjective form. There’s no point pretending that someone (who is also living in this subjective form) will know what is right for you.
My advice? If it gives you energy do it. Go for it. If it doesn’t, just drop it. It’s not about choosing what is easy or that doesn’t require effort. Even the things that are hard to do, if you feel a passion behind and a drive, you know that it is all worth it.
THE THING ABOUT FEAR…
… is that it is a product of time. Fear only exist as a future projection. What’s the thing about projections? They can be wrong. Fear is always a fantasy. What is a fear? …
… is that it is a product of time. Fear only exist as a future projection. What’s the thing about projections? They can be wrong.
Fear is always a fantasy. What is a fear? A fear is not a reality. You cannot experience a fear (you can have a fear “come true” but in the actual moment you are not experiencing the fear, you are experiencing what you were fearful of). Per definition, fear is something that may or may not happen in the future.
Truth is that which has no fear. Truth is the presence, and love and acceptance.
Your soul is above time and space. Your soul cannot experience fear, only your mind can. Anytime you connect with your soul, with truth, and with presence, the fear vanishes away.
I am someone who, like most people, have many fears. And I have learned to work with my fears as consciousness teachers over the years (and at the end of this essay I am showing you how).
When I feel fearful, I know that it is just a fantasy that is playing out in my mind. My mind might be very good at convincing me that the fear is rational though. To not create a struggle within my mind, where I use my mind to convince my mind that there is nothing to be afraid of, I have adopted the strategy “just do it scared”.
“Just do it scared”—what does that even mean?
To be very honest: I am afraid at some point almost every single day. Especially when I wake up for Sadhana early in the morning. This moment of the day when the subconscious mind is wide open, and when our fantasy play is in full force. My mind is trying to convince me of all sorts of dangers, both the ones in the future and those lurking in the corners of the room. Sounds familiar? I think if you have a daily Sadhana (or even the occasional Sadhana) practice you can recognize what I’m saying. And maybe not, but then perhaps there is a different situation that you can recall where you felt fearful?
The daily practice is a foundational tool for transforming our fears. The fear we experience around our practice is a metaphor for fear of life in general. It is a safe place to go to, in order to transform our relationship with our fears—and it works.
What about fears in life?
A few months back I shared about a very personal fear on instagram—you can view the post here.
When we hide our fears, they often gain more control of us. When we speak them out loud, they often lose touch, because we bring them into reality, and if they are not true, they will dissolve. This is the law of reality and non reality (a yogic teaching). And our fears are part of that. I was terrified of sharing how I felt about my personal wealth, and how I had been unable to talk about it in public for years. It felt really uncomfortable to share with my followers how the house I had bought, and the car I was driving isn’t actually bought from money that I earned. I felt a gap between what I was portraying to the world, and not being transparent with how I got there. Living daily with this fear of someone “finding out”/using it against me/not liking me because of that, meant that the fear had taken real power over me. It wasn’t until I realized that the power of the fear meant that I was shrinking and hiding myself, with the result being that I wasn’t inviting recognition and prosperity into my life anymore.
So I did it scared. First I spoke about it in a safe but very vulnerable environment, when me and my co teacher at RA MA, Kirtan Lakshmi hosted a women’s retreat this spring. I felt like an imposter, I felt like I wasn’t allowed to talk about my own fears, when really I was the one who was supposed to hold space for others healing. I still remember thinking “now they will all dislike me, and think I’m shallow and dumb (not being cleaver is another big fear of mine… See the list below—and make your own), and never do another retreat or class with me again”. Looking back it all seem so silly. How a simple thought could have taken so much power over me. But that’s the thing about fear—it’s a total fantasy, a non reality.
What about the physical response of fear?
I don’t want to neglect the physical response in our body, when we are being scared. Being scared, does create a physical response in the body, and so just like I was saying in my reel yesterday: if you are feeling scared or being afraid because you are in an unsafe environment, where your boundaries are not respected, and where you are being undervalued, then of course, avoid and leave. This is not the time to “do it scared”, although “do it scared” might mean standing up for yourself, finally. I always want to encourage healthy boundaries, and I believe a lot of our personal issues and relationship issues would be radically improved if we became clear about our own boundaries and learned to communicated them.
We can strengthen our physical response of fear, with (did you guess it? LOL) Kundalini Yoga. That’s one of the main things the practice does: it strengthens your nervous system. Nervous system reliance is key to a life that is worth living. Knowing and trusting our nervous system is one of the true keys to liberation from fear and conditioning. When I first came to kundalini yoga my nervous system was completely fried. There were even certain postures that, while not being physically challenging for me, my nervous system simply couldn’t hold the energy of. I practiced a lot of nervous system overhaul kriya to help that, and now I am even being spontaneously complimented for my nervous system strength (fx when dealing with my child in challenging situations etc.) This kriya is right now available as a practice video here (as the full moon in Cancer suggested practice).
Another thing to keep in mind about fear, which we already talked about: Fear is a projection of the future. When we live in the present moment, fear ceases to exist. What quickly anchors us in the present moment? The breath. You can’t be scared when you breath properly.
And then mindset. Asking ourselves “What is fear? What is it I am being scared of? What’s the worst that can happen?” When we talk ourselves through the “worst case scenario” we can often get to terms with it. Especially if what we want to achieve creates a greater desire within us than the energy needed to overcome the fear.
I believe that overcoming fear is one of the greatest keys to expanding our experience of life, and that is why I keep talking about it. Why do we overcome fears? Why am I doing it anyways? Because overcoming is the language of the soul. It’s the calling of the soul that make me want to do it anyways.
An exercise
I invite you to make a list of your biggest fears right now. Write them down. Also write down the belief that might be creating the fear.
The ask yourself “What’s the worst thing that could happen?”:
—Write down what it would mean to you, to overcome the fear.
—What is the best case scenario if you did it anyways? Might you actually be okay? Would you survive? I guarantee you the answer is “yes” (if the answer is actually “no, I would not survive” then please don’t do it though ahaha)
Here’s is some examples from my current list:
—I am afraid of sharing more of my opinions publicly > What is the worst that could happen?: That people will get offended or won’t think I’m all that smart after all > the belief holding me back: Am I smart enough? > What would happen if I did it anyways? I might actually bring real insight to people.
—I am afraid of not being perfect when teaching > making a mistake and potentially harming someone > I am only of value when I am perfect > My honest effort will bring people the right energy and experience, even if I make a mistake.
—I am afraid of going really big and being bold in life and on instagram > That someone won’t like me if I shine too bright > Playing small means I am safe > My self expression could inspire others to live more in alignment with themself.
—I am afraid that something might happen to my husband and I am left alone > I fall apart on my own > Can’t take care of myself, and make it on my own > If this ever happened it is part of my journey and my soul’s evolution. I trust that I will be fine no matter what. Building my self reliance is important to me.
—I am afraid of not succeeding > That everyone will succeed and “make it” before me > I am not good enough > By going for it, I might get everything I ever dreamed of.
I have to admit making this list felt so liberating! If you want to share yours feel free to hit reply here, or share it in the comments on my IG post.
All of my fears holds an enormous opportunity for soul expansion. This year I am going to transform the limitations I have set for myself into infinite potential and energy. Care to join me? Let’s just go.
Keep asking yourself “What is the worst that could happen?” And “What if I did it anyways?”
Overcoming is the language of the soul
Do it scared. Do it anyways.
JANUARY 1ST: THE DAY OF THE SOUL
I’m also going to chime in, and say that January 1st might not be the ideal time to fill your head with a big to-do list. The new year of our Gregorian calendar, is well, kind of a construct. And not necessarily the ideal time to make resolutions.
We are still in the darkest time of the year, and this time is really one of resetting, and of tending to the soil—aka how you feel in all aspects of your life…
I’m also going to chime in, and say that January 1st might not be the ideal time to fill your head with a big to-do list. The new year of our Gregorian calendar, is well, kind of a construct. And not necessarily the ideal time to make resolutions.
We are still in the darkest time of the year, and this time is really one of resetting, and of tending to the soil—aka how you feel in all aspects of your life. Let’s save the action steps and big manifestation practices for the Spring Equinox, when the time is much more potent and energizing.
1/1 (first of January) however, is the day that relates most deeply with our soul (the first body in yogic science is the soul body), but this is a stage before anything else has really taken shape (shape and containing begins with 3). One is one, and it is infinite and finite all at the same time. This is exactly how most of us feel like right now. A good moment to reset, clean the slate and tune into what our soul really want and long for.
How do we prepare for “1”? We go to the step before, which is Zero. Going to a place of zero, will automatically zero out anything that doesn’t serve. This can be done in meditation, silence, retreat, or simply by letting go of it all. Letting go of all the expectations, all the things you thought you were, all the things you though you “had to do”—if any of it is true it will find its way back to you.
This is one of the biggest lessons I have learned over the past year (especially after becoming a mother): I am no longer afraid to let go of the need to perform, and to rest and do nothing when I need to. Because I know that the drive within me will steer me back to what I really find important in life. If I keep a dogmatic idea around what I HAVE TO DO, then I lose touch with what really matters to me. It’s all about changing gears, and knowing when it is appropriate to do what. And trusting that you will know, when you listen to your soul’s calling, you will know what is truly important to do, and what is needed of you and when. That to me is living in tune with your soul. And that is what today, the 1st of January, is trying to tell us.
NAVIGATING DRINKING IN THE HOLIDAY SEASON (and any time)
The topic of alcohol has come up in a lot of conversations I’ve had over the last weeks (in conversations, in the DM on Instagram etc.)
I absolutely love to give my take on these things, simply because I am so passionate about sharing the yogic technology and teachings around it—which when applied can make life much more enjoyable for most people. It is an alternative way of living life which many find liberating…
The topic of alcohol has come up in a lot of conversations I’ve had over the last weeks (in conversations, in the DM on Instagram etc.)
I absolutely love to give my take on these things, simply because I am so passionate about sharing the yogic technology and teachings around it—which when applied can make life much more enjoyable for most people. It is an alternative way of living life which many find liberating. It is not as alternative as it once was though, and many of these things are just becoming “common sense”. I believe in part to our increased awareness and in part to the rapid evolution that is taking place here on planet earth.
You can do whatever you want—just had to say that. The below in my take + the yogic perspective on alcohol. If you find liberation in this, great. If you find restriction and don’t resonate that is entirely up to you.
I don’t drink alcohol at all. Mostly because I just don’t have time for that. I don’t have time for moments in my life where I am not fully conscious and present, and I certainly don’t have time to be hung over and tired as a result of drinking alcohol.
I have a physical daily practice that I can’t skip on, because that is my job, and what I teach others—I have to walk the talk 100%. And alcohol for me (like for many athletes and high performance people) isn’t compatible.
From a yogic perspective—well, actually from a medical and scientific perspective—alcohol damage the body and the brain. Why bother?
We all know that. So what are the reasons why we still drink alcohol?
It taste good and it’s fun? People loosen up, they put down their barriers etc.?
—The thing for me is, I don’t need the alcohol for that: I am not interested in putting down my barrier—no just kidding on that, but those who know me personally might know me to be a bit of a social ice queen, ahahah. No seriously though, I had social related anxiety for years and alcohol was my way of coping with that. I had a very hard time being comfortable socially if I didn’t drink. Now I don’t feel that way anymore, and I am comfortable being who I am, without a filter or substance between me and others.
I believe a lot of people drink because of that reason. And that is totally okay. But taking the damages and the loss of time into consideration perhaps it isn’t strictly necessary for you anymore?
Another thing is simply norms and social codes, feeling included and not questioning. Or to do it because you don’t want others to feel judged. It’s a social pressure that many people feel. And if you tap out, you are exposing the habits of the other persons. So it’s easier to comply and play the social game. But is this really what you want? Did you ever ask yourself why or pose the question?
As I also shared in class the other day: I am not here to tell you what is right or wrong to do—I trust that you are intelligent enough to make your own decisions. But I absolutely see it as part of my mission to make you think, to make you reflect on your own choices. Someone told me the other day that I was very triggering for them—and I was SO happy to hear that. If my life and my presence can bring even an ounce of self consciousness to you than I consider that very positive. + If what I share can make you question something, not to feel bad about it, or to feel judged—but to bring more consciousness to every single choice you make, then we are going somewhere and then what I share if worth it.
It’s all about questioning your choices, so that you can become even more clear about who you are and what is right for you. When you are done questioning, you can fully be behind your choice and then you gain so much more energy in life. And it’s about offering that alternative so that you don’t have to be locked into a societal idea of what is normal, and so that you have the freedom to create a life that is authentic to you.
10 LESSONS I’VE LEARNED FROM HAVING A DAILY PRACTICE
It’s hard for me not to shout from the rooftops about this practice. Everyone I’ve known who has ever given kundalini yoga a serious try has experienced tremendous results—some beyond their wildest imaginations. Still, we are now in a time where information doesn’t really matter that much—it’s all about the experience—and people generally don’t like to be told what to do, or how to “fix themselves”…
It’s hard for me not to shout from the rooftops about this practice. Everyone I’ve known who has ever given kundalini yoga a serious try has experienced tremendous results—some beyond their wildest imaginations. Still, we are now in a time where information doesn’t really matter that much—it’s all about the experience—and people generally don’t like to be told what to do, or how to “fix themselves”. So I leave the choice entirely up to you.
But what I know and what was so eye opening to me is the realization that there is another way. That suffering and being negative, reactive, is in fact a choice.
See below for 10 lessons I’ve learned from having a consistent daily kundalini yoga practice for the past several years, and visit the Open Content page where I offer some complimentary classes (until we get that YouTube channel going, this is the place (+ my Instagram channel) to check back to for comp content).
10 lessons I learned from having a daily kundalini yoga practice for the past several years:
Doing the same thing over and over will give you the fastest results (consistent daily practice is key).
Having nervous system strength will make you better at everything.
Complete clarity of mind can be achieved in minutes.
You don’t have to analyze and dissect what you are subconsciously releasing—just throw away the garbage.
Listening to mantras can take you very far. Listen to them constantly.
Waking up in the Amrit Vela (between 3 and 6am) is confronting.
Sleeping through the Amrit Vela drains your energy.
Done is better than perfect.
Having a daily practice does not mean you have to change your whole life (but I did).
You don’t have to suffer through life. There is another way. In this sense, suffering becomes a choice (a hard truth to swallow—I know).
MY JOURNEY WITH KUNDALINI YOGA
I was 23 when I first came into contact with Kundalini Yoga. It was in Paris and I was excited about all the yoga forms the city had to offer. I tried them all, basically. I had been practicing yoga since I was 13, so I was in no way a novice. Still, this form of yoga (kundalini) was so different that I in many ways felt like a complete beginner (what a wonderful place to be, by the way)…
I was 23 when I first came into contact with Kundalini Yoga. It was in Paris and I was excited about all the yoga forms the city had to offer. I tried them all, basically. I had been practicing yoga since I was 13, so I was in no way a novice. Still, this form of yoga (kundalini) was so different that I in many ways felt like a complete beginner (what a wonderful place to be, by the way). And I was very intrigued by the results I felt.
The meeting with Kundalini Yoga created the spark I needed to implement serious changes in my life. I am not going to go into my “destructive past life” story—we all have one, and to be quite honest it is not very interesting to talk about them. (I am much more interested in knowing what you are planning to do with your future). Through the practice I was able to let go of limitations that at that point in my life felt crippling and made me miserable on almost a daily basis. I was in no way living life to the fullest, even though I “on paper” had an exciting and “glamorous” existence in Paris.
When I met my teacher Guru Jagat, it was the point of no return. I “met her” online in 2016, and then in person the year after when I took my teachers training at RA MA Institute Mallorca. The place which has been my home base now for the past 5 years.
Kundalini Yoga, and studying with my teacher, rearranged everything in my life. It was not a tumultuous time — although it might have looked so from the outside—but because of the practice and the support I could lean on from the community, my life changed in a way that felt 100% right. I felt carried to my destiny.
“Destiny” or “higher purpose”, always seems so grand, and a little bit cliche and new age-y. But it is simply the highest potential outcome of your life, which will brings you the absolutely most enjoyable experience possible. Living in destiny, means having the experience of life as a flow of possibilities, opportunities, richness and joy.
My destiny has a mission, which includes two major aspects (besides being a mother and wife which are also privileges and destinies that I don’t take lightly) : 1) The work I do with Mothers Divine—bringing the yogic conception, pregnancy and motherhood teachings to women and families. And 2) Teaching—and providing others with the tools and confidence to teach.
These missions are to be carried out regardless of participants or spectators. My point is: I’m doing this—you can join and receive if you are interested—or not. The offers will find the right people for the mission. And I know they are here as part of a preservation for the future.
PROGRAM HIGHLIGHT: DEEPER STUDIES
YOU BECOME A GOOD TEACHER WHEN YOU ARE A GOOD STUDENT
I am opening up the space for you to become a better student of Kundalini Yoga, and potentially a teacher (or a better teacher, if you are already one). My next program: The DEEPER STUDIES Course 2023 will begin on January 15. We will cover some of the major aspects of Kundalini Yoga, and go deeper into the technology than what would be possible in a regular class setting.
This is an opportunity to go deep into this technology and find the methods and tools that can transform your life, and make you feel more happy, expanded, carried, supported...
This is also an opportunity for those of you who are looking for tools for how to seamlessly teach a class, know more about the background of Kundalini Yoga—of why we do things the way we do etc. This is the course where it will all be explained.
Most importantly, it will give you a framework for deepening your own practice, which as stated before is what will make you a better teacher. The workshops, classes and daily practice provided and the group accountability has the potential to really create shifts, and bring you to your destiny. Or enhance your potential for making the biggest possible impact with your destiny, if you are already on the way.
SUPER HUMAN IS FULLY HUMAN
When I was pregnant with David Ra back in 2020, I knew I had to prepare him to live successfully as a human, and I was drawn to the idea of teaching him about the chakras. In Kundalini Yoga we acknowledge that children are raised in the womb, and that any knowledge that you wish to pass on to them should be given from the 120th day until the 7th month of pregnancy, ideally (more on this topic in the Mothers Divine Course which will begin in September). And so I thought, what better way to teach him about the full human potential than to teach him about the chakras? …
When I was pregnant with David Ra back in 2020, I knew I had to prepare him to live successfully as a human, and I was drawn to the idea of teaching him about the chakras. In Kundalini Yoga we acknowledge that children are raised in the womb, and that any knowledge that you wish to pass on to them should be given from the 120th day until the 7th month of pregnancy, ideally (more on this topic in the Mothers Divine Course which will begin in September). And so I thought, what better way to teach him about the full human potential than to teach him about the chakras?
The Chakras are energy centers in the body. They’re portals and there are wheels of energy emanating from these portals, nourishing (or malnourishing) your physical body with the energy of the subtle bodies.
Just like when we work with the zodiac signs on the new and the full moon—because each sign covers a certain area in our life, and the moon days are a great time to work with that particular energy as the quality it represents is magnified—so can we work with the chakra system, in a similar way.
Each chakra has a physical location in our body, and is connected to a gland. When we stimulate this gland (through yogic postures and meditation) we are creating a better flow of energy + a better frequency in that chakra.
So how does this actually affect our lives in a practical sense?
The frequency with which each chakra works most optimally, is linked with an emotion (or you can call them virtues, if that word doesn’t feel too alienating to you). The frequency of the chakra enhance the frequency of the emotion. When the frequency is off, the emotion is off. When it is balanced this emotion can be expressed most fully.
WHAT MAKES US FEEL GOOD?
WHEN WE ARE EXPERIENCING EMOTIONS OF A HIGH QUALITY FREQUENCY. OUR BODIES, AND PARTICULARLY OUR CHAKRAS, ARE DESIGNED TO HELP US SELF REGULATE. THEY ARE ENERGY "WHEELS" THAT SPIN AND THAT ARE IN PART RESPONSIBLE FOR HOW WE FEEL ABOUT OURSELVES, AND HOW THAT IS BEING EXPRESSED IN OUR LIVES.
Acceptance, love, compassion, courage, understanding, empathy, trusting, connecting—isn’t this essentially what we are all seeking? A way to connect more deeply with others, a way to accept and feel accepted, and to have the courage to face our fear, and to stand up for ourselves?
And don’t forget that when you bring your own frequency up, you are affecting all those around you (according to scientific research this is very much true). We are all looking for more love, more courage, more acceptance, more connections. And in balancing the chakras lie our greatest potential to build more beautiful and meaningful lives.
My next program is called ‘The Chakra Series’, and it works on balancing the chakras thus enhancing all these virtues connected with them. It works practically by applying and practicing bodily movement—through yoga sets, breathing exercises and meditations + guided exercises, journaling and focus points around the subjects that each chakra represents and the frequency it is linked to. In this way each class is a chance to enhance a virtue in your life.
The Chakra teachings (and exercises) are essential keys to unlock our healthiest, happiest and highest human potential. We need you, as a leader on this planet, to show up with courage, be fiercely loving and radically compassionate.
Journeying through the 8 Chakras is an opportunity to build a sustained flow of energy + feel more connected, accepting, loving, confident… All virtues that ultimately help us build more beautiful and meaningful lives.
Sat Nam & Love,
WHAT MOTHERS REALLY NEED
I started ‘Mothers Divine’ after the birth of my son, David Ra. Throughout my pregnancy I had found such tremendous strength in my Kundalini Yoga practice, and in general I just found that my experience of pregnancy had been very different from the narrative of pregnancy and birth that I found all around me. It was actually hard to find literature and communities where I felt my experience of pregnancy and birth was reflected. The general outlook was one of deep fear, overwhelm, different “cooping mechanism” because surely this was going to be something traumatic and exhausting…
“Stepping into motherhood is a huge transformation for any woman. It is one of the most common journeys a woman can take—but that does not in any way make it less sacred or special!”
I started ‘Mothers Divine’ after the birth of my son, David Ra. Throughout my pregnancy I had found such tremendous strength in my Kundalini Yoga practice, and in general I just found that my experience of pregnancy had been very different from the narrative of pregnancy and birth that I found all around me. It was actually hard to find literature and communities where I felt my experience of pregnancy and birth was reflected. The general outlook was one of deep fear, overwhelm, different “cooping mechanism” because surely this was going to be something traumatic and exhausting—not strengthening and mind + consciousness expanding. Could it just be that I was a “lucky one”, with my nausea free first trimester, easy-breezy pregnancy + unmedicalized and uncomplicated home birth? Or was there really something to the way I had approached my experience as a whole?
I started talking with other mothers who had also been doing this type of yoga during their pregnancies. I found that in general all of us had very positive birth experiences. Even if things hadn’t gone as planned, it seemed the women I spoke with unanimously had a different / more accepting and positive outlook on their births. We had felt strong and connected during our pregnancies. We had felt prepared for motherhood. And I also found that the children (some women had children who are now 10-13) were pretty awesome, conscious, and mature for their age.
One women describes her experience of this:
“My pregnancy time was my first contact with Kundalini Yoga. I didn’t know much about it, I was just going to classes and chanting the mantras. What I noticed was the protection that I felt was being created around me. When I was walking and driving I would always be chanting the mantra: “Aad Guray Nameh Jugaad Guray Nameh Sat Guray Nameh Siri Guru Devay Nameh”—which is the mantra for protection.
In Kundalini Yoga we have the teaching that everything is learned in the womb. One day my daughter surprised me by humming the melody of “Aad guray nameh”—she was around 13 months old. During the time after my birth I had not returned to class and I did not sing this particular mantra, but I had sung it a lot throughout my pregnancy, so I asked her if she could repeat what she was singing, and it was the melody of that mantra. I was so surprised that I called my Kundalini teacher to tell her. My daughter spoke very prematurely, and learn 3 languages really fast.”
Having something that helps your feel secure and protected during your pregnancy is of such great value. I am so grateful that I was introduced to the yogic pregnancy teachings when I was (about 3 years before I became pregnant), because it gave me a lot of methods to prepare with. Not just prepare for the actual birth but also to prepare my body and mindset ahead of time so that I could enjoy my time of pregnancy, which I really did. But just like the women above describes, even beginning when you are already pregnant can have a huge impact on not only you, but also on your child.
I really feel that this way of approaching pregnancy I something that needs to be known about, and practiced by as many women as possible. I am very passionate about it, and that is also why I decided last year to launch the annual Mothers Divine Course. Because if we can give women back their sovereignty in pregnancy and birth, we can actually change the course of human history. There is a war on birthing women going on right now, just FYI, and it’s really a serious offense to our powers as women that birth has become institutionalized and medicalized to the extend and degree it has today. Humans being brought into the world already drugged up and through vibrations of fear and trauma, is not going to create a bright future. Sometimes these procedures save lives, and we should be grateful for that, but to the extend they are being used today, they actually create more harm than they save lives, unfortunately. It is a big problem.
What we as women have the opportunity and the responsibility to do, is create enough strength and sovereignty in ourselves that we can break that patterns of insanity, by daring to say “no” when it is required, and by knowing our rights + feel comfortable voicing them when we are being coerced, pushed or manipulated into something that goes against our intuitive intelligence.
These practices, this way of approaching pregnancy and motherhood, has the ability to help us accomplish that, and it is therefore of the utmost importance that as many women as possible learn about, apply and teach these methods of creating victory in pregnancy, birth and motherhood.
Mothers Divine Course this year will take place from September 11 - December 17. It will be a 14 week program consisting of 5 modules, and can be done as a whole or “pick and choose”.
In its entirety, Mothers Divine Course is a full Child Birth Education course, a Kundalini Pregnancy Yoga training (as a supplementary teachers training for existing Kundalini Yoga teachers) + a Birth Preparation method.
The course is an online study program with a commitment of 1.5 - 4 hours per week for the live participation. It can also be done as a self paced study program. Besides the live workshops, and lectures, you will also receive a Study Guide with additional videos and material for each module, Self Evaluation at the end of each Module + access to our online community of women.
The course is intended for, those who wish to become a mothers some day: It is never too early to start, and yogic teachings says you prepare for 3 lifetimes to become a mother. Having a conscious pregnancy really begins way ahead of the moment of conception. Women who are already pregnant: This course will give you practices to deeply evolve and develop yourself during pregnancy + help prepare you for birth, and gives you all the tools and knowledge about conscious pregnancy and child raising (which begins in the womb—yogic science and western science both confirms) that you will need. Birth workers and yoga teachers: The course is an excellent way to expand your knowledge of holistic pregnancy if you are someone who work with pregnant women, is a birth keeper, or for someone who wish to teach pregnancy yoga.
Prices:
Early registration 660€ when paid in full
Payment plan of 110€ for 8 months (= 880€, the full course price at no additional fee)
Your destiny and how your time as a mother will be, is essentially in your hands. We have the technology to help you—if this is what you are interested in. We also have a community where you can go to for support, friendship and to reflect and heal with other women. It is of utmost value that mothers are thriving as our wellbeing is the catalyst for a successful future for our children, and therefore humanity at large.
I hope you will join us on this journey, as we are working towards creating a better future for women and children everywhere.
Sat Nam & Love,